慶子
26 May 2009 @ 01:04 am
='(  
So... Sunday night, since it was going to be my great aunt's last night here, she made a HUGE amount of food. We had steak, ribs, chicken, cucumber chicken salad, pickled veggies, sushi, ...other stuff that I can't remember i'm sure XD
So, my uncle jon and kevin came over to join in the feasting, and then after cleaning up, we ended up finding and looking at some olddd pictures. There's even one of my mom and dad when they were...probably younger than I am now haha. We also found one of my grandparents when they were...probably in their 20's as well :) My aunt framed it and put it in the living room next to a more recent picture of them. ^_^
around 9 or so, Kevin and I decided to leave, and we ended up just hanging out at his house (where we ended up falling asleep...too much food = massive food comaaaa D; ) until he took me home around 1:30

Today, since it's memorial day, the family went hakamairi...er...to go visit the cemetary and put flowers on my great grandparents' and my great-grandma/grandma's graves. My aunt forgot her wallet when we went to the florist, but saw some fake flowers, and ran back inside. When she didn't come out my mom was like "...maybe she's buying a flower or two from her" ...and i asked her with what money?! so...my mom ran back inside and ended up having to lend my aunt the money for the fake flowers (on top of the two really pretty boquets my grandpa had bought). After we came home we went shopping and then spent the whole afternoon making sukiyaki and miso soup for dinner. My aunts' son was going to pick her up and take her to his house for the night before taking her to the airport in the morning. He...still did but he had to fly back from Oregon to pick her up >.o' It turns out his wifes' sister-in-law (who was only like 46/47) had a heart attack and passed away on thursday. I guess she'd been at home, and her kids were all at work/school wherever, and once the older one got out of work, picked up the next oldest and on the way home when they passed the middle school saw their sibling still there at 4 (when school gets out at 2 and their mom was supposed to pick her up) So...they picked her up and i guess when they got home they found her? *shudder* so traumatic, for everyone =/
so..I guess his family had gone up to oregon, and he'd had to come back to pick up my aunt and take care of his parents-in-law since they're old and sickly D:
Anyways, Kevin came over for dinner again (since he'd never had home-cooked sukiyaki or miso?) and then accompanied me back to school :D

but yeah... i guess my aunt is off to canada tomorrow, and she keeps side-stepping our attempts to ask her to come back to California (where her whole family lives -_-' ), especially when she said she'd help my grandpa out (Yeah, so move back, we basically have an empty room since i don't really live there anymore -_-' ). It was nice having her around the last 3 months. She kept the house lively and really kept my grandpa company since my grandma's been gone...(and she kept us all well fed with nummy foods too haha)
...now without her, we're stuck with my mom and i trying to figure out how to cook (...since neither of us cook, and we never really got a chance to learn or try out stuff....the next few months while we experiment should be...........special >.o;; ), and it's going to be lonelyyyy since it's jsut my grandpa and uncle during the week...and my uncle doesn't really ever come out of his room except for dinner DD:
:sigh:

...and now, since i slept so much the night before, i'm just not tired enough to sleep yet D:
...and tomorrow I have to do my paper for my post-war lit class that's due on wednesday morning *sigh* =_='
 
 
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慶子
17 February 2009 @ 07:34 pm

So… I didn’t really write about last week, but I went to go see the Vagina Monologues with Tracy, Kevin and Michael on Friday! It was pretty interesting …though I have a small quibble with the fact that they use the word vagina to describe everything, even though it should really be called the vulva -_-‘’’

Anyways, Friday was my grandma’s funeral. So many people showed up ._.’ There were so many people I didn’t know, though for most of them, I’d heard their names before, but no faces to the names. There were also a lot of people I did know, but haven’t seen since I was probably 10 years old or so =O.

My mom had to go to the hairdressers to get her hair washed and set before heading to my grandparents’ house so we could get ready. My family got to the place a bit after 10:30 and talked to some of the attendees before going inside and sitting down. Konko Kyou is a really tiny building, and is basically just a room with the front converted into a shrine. In front of the shrine was my grandmother’s open casket and so many flower arrangements (one from my grandpa on top of the casket, and a heart shaped one each from her sisters, her children, me, and my auntie yoko’s family; and arrangements from my Uncle Quinn and Auntie Ruby, and one from my Aunt’s friend Ms. Nakamura and her son Tak). My grandma has known Tsuyuki Alfred Sensei (the Rev/priest) from when she was a little kid, so I’m sure it must have been a bit hard on him too. He conducted the service in both Japanese and English, and did all of the chants and prayers and such to send her on her way. At the end, to show respect, everyone took a heatherwood? branch with white paper attached and placed it on the small table in front of her with two claps to show their respects, starting with my grandpa, her children, me, my aunties, and then on down the rows. It was touching to see so many people, and it meant a lot to me to have Tracy and Kevin come. Afterwards, Tsuyuki Sensei did the 10th day memorial rites and a small biography of her life before concluding the service.

I met up with Tracy and Kevin and we hovered outside talking for a bit while everyone figured out what was going on and stuff. My mom was talking to Ms K (SooHoo’s aunt) and Toshi (she used to live across the street from my grandma, and was a noon duty aid at Repetto) and all of a sudden i heard a shriek. Because...my mom had dropped her cigarette in Ms. K's (rather large) bag that also happened to be filled to the brim with loose coupons and pictures and stuff (in other words...bonfire waiting to happen -.-' ). Luckily we were able to find it without anything going up in flames *phew*.

After talking a bit more, I went with tracy and kevin and we met everyone at the Thousand Cranes restaurant in the Kyoto Grand Hotel in Little Tokyo for lunch. We ended up sitting next to Ms K, Toshi (she used to live across the street from my grandma, and was a noon duty aid at Repetto), Josephine and her son Christopher (they’ve lived across the street from my grandparents for 25+ years). Lunch consisted of a set meal with a bunch of traditional Japanese foods. After eating, I got talked to and introduced/reintroduced to a few people before we were finally able to leave.

 Each of us went to our houses to change before going to the mall where we met up with Michael. After walking around for a bit we headed back and Tracy left for home. The rest of us went to Target to look for a gift for Barb before heading to Lyn’s house for a party! =D We ended up staying until about 12:30 playing Scattergories and stuff.

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慶子
09 February 2009 @ 11:43 am
she's really gone...

My grandma passed away at 9:50am on Friday's very rainy morning.

My mom and I had just walked into my grandparents house to pick up my grandpa and my aunt that had come from canada the day before, so that we could all go visit her at Keiro when my grandpa got a call saying she had passed away...

The last time I saw her on Sunday, she had been sleeping the whole time, until her pain meds wore off I suppose... It was stressful watching her move and groan in pain when the meds they gave her hadn't kicked in yet. At that point, she hadn't eaten or really drank anything since the Saturday before, and hadn't even been able to swallow pills =/

At least she's not suffering pain anymore from the cancer, and the hospice nurses that were there when she passed said that she died peacefully, so that's a good thing.

Less than two weeks ago they said she had a few weeks to live. By last tuesday, it was down to a week, and by wednesday they said 24-48 hours. =/

When my mom picked me up Thursday night, she told that I had better visit grandma both days because she didn't have much longer to live
By that point her temperature had been rising, and she was having problems breathing and was hooked up to oxygen. But they said by Thursday she wasn't really in pain anymore. ...It would have been nice to see her alive one more time, but...

At least, my aunt managed to get here from canada on Thursday and see her one last time, I'm glad for that because she hadn't been planning on coming for another couple of weeks D=

Anyways, after we found out, we all headed to Keiro to say goodbye. My auntie yoko(well...great aunt) was already there, a  bit later my uncles ron and jon came, and then auntie yoko's husband roland and their son greg.

I have to say... it's kind of a peculiar feeling talking about someone while their body is still there in the room and you can visibly watch as it slowly grows more and more pale...

everyone said their goodbyes, with my grandpa giving her one last kiss. it was pretty poignant because I don't think I've seen him kiss her ever... =/

so... someone came to pick up her body, and my auntie yasuko got there JUST when he did, because she hadn't gotten the messages we'd left for her since she wasn't at home until like 3 hours later. So...she only got to see her for a few seconds before they took her away =(

Afterwards, the family went to Oomasa in Little Tokyo to eat together ^^

Her funeral is going to be a Konko kyo funeral ...which I guess you could say is like a sect of shinto-ism.

Saturday was the first service thing to start her on her journey. I didn't go but it involved Tsuyuki sensei I guess moving her spirit from her body into a box on the altar.

The funeral is Friday morning at Konko kyo church, and they're going to combine the 10th day memorial service (which would be on sunday) with it. Next comes the 20th, 30th, 40th, 50th, and 100th day memorials. After the initial service, the 50th and 100th are the most important ones. After the 50th day one I guess she'll be buried. (She'll be cremated, so that won't be a problem).

Since then, my grandma and aunt's friends Kenbo and Yuki brought a huge amount of bentou on Saturday, and her friend Sasajima Obasan (who is like 93 and whom she hadn't talked to in years) brought a ginormous bowl of sushi on sunday.

And Tracy came by on Sunday as well to drop of a beautiful glass swan vase with a rose and a card. (Thank you again! ^^' ). I took a picture of it, but i don't have my camera's connector cable here at school ><'

Everything is slowly starting to sink in... ;~;


53 years my grandparents were married...

This isn't the best picture of her, but it's the only one I have on my computer. It's from Thanksgiving 2006 ^^;
 
 
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慶子
03 April 2007 @ 09:54 pm

So...I found out a couple of days ago that one of my Mixi friends Fumio died (`;Д⊂)
This was posted in his journal:

お知らせ
Hi. We are SDP’s daughters, Natsuko and Aki.
We have a sad news. Father died on March 7th. He slumped over from a heart failure at his office. Sorry for late contact with you.
We do appreciate your friendship with him. He enjoyed mixi very much. His coworker said that he had told his students some stories from it. He enjoyed his everyday life with it, so thank you very very much.
Please excuse my hasty writing.


こんにちは。私達はSDPの娘のナツコとアキです。
悲しいお知らせがあります。父が3月7日に亡くなりました。勤務先で心臓麻痺でたおれたのです。お知らせするのが遅くなってしまってすいません。
私達はあなた方の友情に本当に感謝しています。父はMIXIをとても楽しんでいました。同僚の先生の話では自分の生徒にMIXIでの話しをしていたそうです。父はMIXIによって毎日の生活を楽しんでいました。本当に本当にありがとう。

At first I thought that they were kidding since it was posted on April 1st.
But...they really weren't kidding...
We exchanged several messages, (though we hadn't in a while) and he was a really nice guy...
Really enthusiastic about meeting people, and bettering his English, and of course of helping others learn Japanese
I definitely think I'm going to miss him... (Pд`q)゜

 
 
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慶子
30 June 2006 @ 06:23 pm
waaaaaaaah~     my uncles dog KC... got put to sleep today T_________T i guess...this morning she was in our backyard stuck at the bottom of our ivy hill (we have a deck that overhangs a hill...thing that's covered with ivy)
and...her hip was...all weird... so... my uncle went to the vets office, and he came home about a few hours ago....without her ::sniffles::, i guess they couldn't do anything about it...and he said something about...internal problems?!?! so... i have no clue what actually happened --;

and... now i feel really guilty because my mom told me to take her for a walk yesterday...but i forgot (u-u)
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